We’re about to talk about some next-level Zen stuff. Resistance.
Resistance is what kills your momentum when you start a new project and never finish it. It’s that unconscious part of you that gets in your own way. We all use words like “but” and “if” in our vocabulary. These words do the same thing. They cause resistance in our lives.
The only thing that can counter that part of us is cultivating the feeling that we are in your power. This feeling of empowerment creates momentum and non-resistance in everything that we do.
“The more you allow a thought to flow without resisting it with a contradictory thought, the more speed it picks up, the more energy it attracts, the more its bigness happens, the more its power happens.”
When we’ve been working on something for a while, we can begin to believe that a thing is too slow in manifesting. That’s the moment when our thoughts start to create resistance. This resistance can literally block the change from happening and the thing from emerging. With our thoughts, we are creating a mixed message for our mind and heart by not allowing it to happen in its own time. By trying to force things, or by simply doubting that it’s possible, we block the momentum.
Turning your attention towards something else for some time can allow your desire to gain its own momentum without the forcing of it by wanting it to happen faster. This means it has a better chance of manifesting then if you were to put all of your attention towards. It other words, patience is a virtue when it comes to manifestation.
The best way to practice non-resistance is to move your attention towards other things after you’ve created your desire, asked for it, and taken meaningful action towards it. At that point, your goal should be to only focus on preparing to receive it. By all means, feed its momentum by creating actions towards it. But also think in a way that is non-resistant by believing in its eventual arrival. Believing it will happen, that it’s on its way. Believe in your ability to attract it into your life, wether its wealth, strong relationships, or good health.
The Master of non-resistance himself, author Ekhart Tolley explains that non-resistance doesn’t mean doing nothing. It means having a “non-reactive” mindset that allows you to let things pass without becoming defensive. It means surrendering to the things you can’t control and remaining in mental balance without being afraid of anything. As we French-Canadians say, “Que sera sera”. But be prepared for it to be great!
When we become reactive to a situation, we are actually feeling the fear that things will not turn out the way we’d hoped, that we will fail, or that we wrongly believed we were capable of achieving it. But this is an imagined thought. Practicing non-resistance means allowing this thought to pass without taking fear-based action, and at the same time being decisive, alert, and moving forward with your plans.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
My name is Michelle. I’m a postgraduate qualified professional with over twenty years of experience as a group facilitator and public educator. I’ve helped thousands of people re-imagine their lives and create concrete plans for self-improvement. I’ve facilitated dozens of workshops and support groups on topics like stress management, mental health and wellness, goal setting, grief counselling, safety planning, and confidence building. I’m a former social worker and crisis services coordinator, and after working for eight years as a non-profit consultant, I felt a strong desire to return to helping people. I created Authentic World Inc, an international life coaching company that offers one-on-one support and self-directed courses on personal development topics. I also teach philosophy part time at Carleton University in Canada’s national capital. In my coaching approach, I consider the teachings of the modern philosophers of our time and use a holistic method for teaching you how to become more compassionate towards yourself and improve the quality of your life in the process.